I think of divorce differently, and while it is certainly an emotionally hurricane, the core issues are simple.
All one has to do is finally separate two partners in a relationship while ensuring that the manner in which you have structured your marriage (either in community or out of community of property) is unbundled in a manner that each former spouse can exit the marriage with what is due to them, and if children are involved their interests do come first, especially in the sense that both parents must be willing to contribute toward them based on both affordability and how the children were treated during the marriage.
It is most certainly unfair to any children to make them the subject of any argument during a divorce, and it is best that both parents, sit down, in a mature fashion to work out what is best for their children, before continuing with a divorce. Children never ask to be between parents and only look up to their parents for the care, love, and stability that they deserve.
Over the years I have assisted clients in what I consider to be the most tiring and emotional segment of law, divorce.
During this time I have seen matters start acrimoniously and continue in that way throughout the process, mainly brought on by legal practitioners, who rather than assist their clients to resolve a matter with the least amount of stress, tend to exacerbate the issue by being acrimonious themselves, and this is certainly not a field of law where attorneys should be focused on winning, as there rarely are any winners when a relationship has ended.
Divorces generally are born from a resentful space, where one or both former spouses attempt to use the process to hurt the other, or extract some form of retribution while the divorce continues, as in some cases, for an unnecessarily long period of time, and if children are involved these issues can be magnified at a great expense to the client, when money would rather be spent on either yourself or your children.
